Have you ever made a mistake? Did you know it was a mistake while it was happening or only after? How did you handle it? Most of us do not set out trying to make mistakes, that is why they are called "mistakes". The way we decide to look at things (our perspective) can have a big impact on how we respond to situations, mistakes and how we view ourselves. Take Ollie, in the video below for example. He definitely was not getting things right. Do you think he was beating himself up for not doing things perfectly? What do you think was going through his head? Does he seem to be blaming the other dogs or the crowds? Did he make the first mistake and decide to give up? No, he is able to find joy even when he does not perform perfectly. Often times our "mistakes" lead us to see things from another perspective. If we learn to see them as opportunities to learn, to improve and to laugh we can often go a little easier on ourselves. Everyone makes mistakes. Here are a few quotes to consider: "Mistakes are proof that you are trying." "I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that won't work " - Thomas Edison "I've learned so much from my mistakes, I'm thinking of making a few more." "Don't carry mistakes around with you, instead place them under your feet and use them as stepping stones." "The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing." - John Powell
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As you begin planning for the summer holiday, consider taking a family vacation from social media for a little while. There are positives and negatives to using social media and if you ask pre-teens and teens they will tell you it is an important part in their daily life, Our goal can be to help them see and experience a freedom in signing out for a while or taking a break..
Research on the effects of social media and teens is growing. It shows that social media have significant impacts individuals' mental health, body image, sleep, relationships, information sources, and idea of what life "should" look like. The pressures of posting only "perfect" photos or making sure one's online life looks fun and exciting at all times is difficult. Your child will likely not be excited about the idea of a break, which would mean breaking their "streak" on Snapchat, FoMo (Fear of Missing out), or the social repercussions that absent from their chat groups might mean. However, the benefits of not having to worry about getting enough "likes" on each post, or not being compelled to reply to your group chat's within the expected timeframe can be freeing emotionally and mentally. Some research shows that it is less anxiety inducing for teens if he/she makes the decision for him/herself to take the break. Perhaps choose one or two apps that are most used to take the break from; or select a day of the week to stay off media; or plan an activity with friends in-person and agree to leave the phones turned off as a group. If teens need help with what to tell their friends, parents can coach them to let their friends know in advance that they will be away from wifi or that parents are setting a social media blackout period. Below are a few articles related to taking a break from social media.
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